Love Hurts ♥♥

"In the early stages of a relationship, it is difficult to imagine that the one for whom you have such strong feelings could ever 
hurt you. It is also hard to imagine that you could ever cause the 
one you love pain, especially when everything is so new. The 
beginning is always sweet and nice, but sooner or later something less than perfect happens, and one of you gets hurt.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "you always hurt the one you love?" It's so true isn't it? You may not mean to, but at some point, you may do something, or not do something, that your significant other is hurt by. The opposite is also true. As a matter of fact, relationships sometimes end because of this fact. They don't always have to, however.

How to Handle the Pain Love Brings You!!!

If you are in a healthy relationship, the hurt was unintentional.
 It is important to realize that your loved one didn't plan on causing you pain. Try to see the
 situation from their perspective. You should try to calm your emotions down, 
and then talk to them about what they were thinking, or why they did what they did, 
or said what they said. Be willing to see it their way. Once you hear them out, they will be more willing to hear you out. Explain how you perceived what they said or did, and why you felt hurt by it.

You might not be able to communicate this right away. You should wait until an appropriate time, when you are not clouded with emotion. This is easier said than done, but it can be at least be done. Waiting can help you avoid saying things that you don't mean because you are hurt and angry. Get it off your chest by talking it out or writing 
a brief note or email. Don't just hold a grudge, because
 it will only hurt you more.

What to Do When Your Loved One Feels Hurt!!!

The most important things that you can do is listen. Showing that you care about their feelings is essential to helping them to heal quickly. You might not understand why they are hurt initially, because you didn't mean to hurt them. Make an 
effort to see it from their perspective, and try to help them understand your intentions better. Communicate to them that you do care about their feelings.Apologize if you did something wrong. Make a sincere effort to acknowledge that you could have done things differently, and express plans to avoid that kind of thing in the future. Make it clear that you didn't mean to hurt them, and that you want to avoid doing it again.

What Not To Do !!!

If you feel hurt, don't:
-yell
-try to get revenge or make them pay
-hold a grudge
-demand an apology
-insist that you are right

If your loved on is hurt, don't:
-disregard their feelings as silly
-say you're sorry unless you actually mean it
-pretend to understand
-insist that you are right

Ultimately, clear and honest communicate can help heal the hurt. Be willing both to listen and to talk. If forgiveness, care, and understanding are working parts of your relationship, there won't be that much pain. You will enjoy a long-lasting and healthy relationship that is true to life.

Facebook vs Orkut

Facebook is becoming popular in India,the growth of facebook in India is tremendous this year.
When it comes to social networking in India,Orkut was the major player since 2006 because it was the first social networking site launched in India by Google.
When we compare ,both  does the same “connecting with friends” but each have some specific features.

History

Orkut was founded by Orkut Büyükkökten. in January 24 2004 .Later acquired by google.Initially orkut was launched in US,Most users of orkut were in US by that time.By the word of mouth Orkut spreaded to Brazil and India where the Orkut’s growth picked up speed.The US users later switched to other social networking sites.Currently Orkut is famous in Brazil (50.6%) and India (20.4%)
Facebook was founded by  Mark Zuckerberg  in 2004 at Harvard university as a on-line network to connect with friends.Facebook transformed as a platform where programmers can create applications on it,Today there are 800,000 developers around the word.

Interface

User Interface is the major concern for growth , Orkut has simple user interface that a average person can use it without hassle. While face book still simple but has some complex feature that an average person has to be guided first.Orkut recently updated its interface with new one but many still opt for old interface.

Application capability

Nowadays students and developers go for face book because of additional features like facebook applications which can be developed by thirst party, community pages,open graph.One more feature that a developer likes in facebook is “facebook connect” which allows huge possibilities of integrating secure applications inside WebPages.Orkut doesn’t have any of these features needed by a developer.

Social Gaming

One major reason for  facebook's success is gaming.The game application is integrated right inside the facebook . Over 83 million active users for the Farmville game alone. Many of my friends are die hard fans of farmville and mafia wars.The fact is I started using face book just to play mafia wars.Now I literally not using Orkut nowadays.

Privacy

Major problem for facebook is privacy.People can easily find others personal data.BTW orkut has some better security features like applying security for photos,scraps etc.This gives a some extra control to our personal data shared on internet.